Wanna be like … Dad

I think I have a lot to catch up in parenting. Wish I started earlier but that cant be a reason not to start now. When my eldest son was 8 I was his role model. I loved it. As he grew up and I stagnated with more “corporate life” he looked elsewhere for a role model. I played less, laughed less and overall dreamed less. After all, I thought to myself, I should be earning more to provide the best for my kids. It just did’nt work that way.
Kids need for a role model is like my need for a good job. We may not be loud about it but its whats deep inside our minds. When my 12 year old looks at Neil Armstrong’s picture in the news his face lights up. Thats an all important message for me as a parent. His role model is like a package deal. It comes with more than flying qualities. Children will not only take that quality for which their role model is famous but will also admire all the other qualities of that person.
I remember Michael Jackson when I was growing up. I not only admired his moves but also his leather jackets and shoes and basically anything to do with MJ. Choosing a hero is important for kids as it gives them a look into the future. They see themselves applying some of those qualities in their future adult life. “Wanna to be like Mike” is attributed to Michael Jordan for all the good reasons. Kids loved him and he was a great role model. Sports, competition, leadership, excellence all came together with a nice personality inspiring kids to be really be like him.
Here is an article that throws more light on role models for parenting:

Positive Role Models and Children


My childhood role model was Neill ArmstrongHave you ever stopped and asked yourself where your child picked up a certain behavior or habit whether it is good or bad? The answer is through the people around them. So in other words they are paying attention to what the people around them are doing. This includes you, your child’s siblings, friends, teachers and even the people they watch on television. Anyone that they look up to, a role model. Making sure that your child is influenced by positive role models will help them achieve more in life.

Look, when we were little we all had someone the we looked up to. Someone that we wanted to be like. If you were honest with yourself, I would bet that even as an adult there is someone you admire. These people were and are our role models. They gave us motivation to go after and hopefully achieve what they had, what we wanted. Mine role model was Neill Armstong. He taught me that there is no limits to what we can do. So, who is your child’s role model?


Naturally the very first answer we all want to give is ourselves. Which is why it is important that you set a good example for your child. Think about the television ads where there is a dad and son riding in a car and all of a sudden the son starts yelling at the car in front of them for being a “stupid” driver. Where did that child hear that? One of my favorite signs that used to be all over the city I grew up in said, “Racism is something that is taught, not something we are born with.”  Our children are clean slates, that we all have the incredible opportunity to mold into some of the most impressive people we have ever known.

To help make sure that you are being a positive role model to your children. Make sure that you share your values with your children. Which means that you talk to your children about where you stand on issues such as drugs, smoking, sex, homeless, poverty, and religion just to name a few.

Next, show your children that you are confident and happy with who you are. Your children need to see that you have self esteem. If they see that mom and dad are happy with who they are, then they are more likely to be happy with who they are. Also along with that show them the importance of being independent. You don’t have to be a follower of the latest fad. Be yourself and be happy with who you are.

Deal with your stress in positive ways. Part of being human means dealing with stress on a daily basis. Some days there is more stress then others. You don’t have to hide stress from your children, instead show them how to deal with it. Do you think Superman cried to Louise Lane when a big bad guy came after him?

Let your children know about your successes and your failures. I can not stress enough how important it is to for children to know that mom and dad are human and they have made mistakes and moved on anyway. Disappointments are just as much a part of life as successes are. Failing doesn’t make you a bad person, it gives you the chance to learn how to do something better.

Let your children know that you love them no matter what. DO NOT assume for one minute that children know this innately. Don’t feel bad if you child questions it, take it as an opportunity to sweep them in your arms and tell them how much you love them and how incredible they are.

A final tip for parents on being a positive role model for their children is to make sure you are involved in their lives. Talk to them about their day at school, what they learned, what they did. Know who their friends are. Know who your child is.

Outside of you, who are their role models. Take a look at who they hang out with, who they talk about the most, who they watch on television. If your children are like our 13 year then chances are greater then not that the Jonas Brothers and Miley Cirus come into play here. For our ten year old it is Michael Phelps and Brian Urlacker. All in all, they are decent role models. None of these people are routinely in trouble with the law, they actively reach out to kids their age and younger and talk about determination and the importance of staying on target to achieve goals.

Granted it took sometime to get the focus off of Sponge Bob, but we did it. It isn’t even that I want to say that cartoon characters aren’t good role models. There are a few characters and programs that are positive and they teach important lessons. For example on Discovery Kids there is “Growing Up Creepy” and “Grossology.” Both are positive shows, the first deals with being different, having a family that is different then everyone else and being comfortable with who you are. The second is a positive way of dealing with stress and problems that pop up in life, most of which are related to bodily functions, but it is a brother/sister team that saves the world in each episode. Completely realistic? No, not in the slightest, but is it better then having your children watch senseless cartoons that teach violence and bad behavior, I should say so.

If you are looking for positive role models to introduce into your child’s life start looking close to home. Perhaps there is someone that you know that shares a common interest with your child that could help them strive to be the best they can be. Then look into activities that your child enjoys. If it is sports, look at the sport and see if there is a well known person in the area that your child can relate to. Our son is a football fanatic, but one of the people he looks up to is Michael Phelps, why? Because Michael Phelps has ADHD, and he faced many of the same issues our son faces and yet he has gone on, stayed focused on what it was he wanted and achieved what no one else has.

You don’t have to look very far for positive role models. You are the best example that your child could ever ask for. It’s important that you are reinforcing at home what they positive role model outside of the home is

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